Must I attend my son’s wedding to this woman?

DEAR ABBY: In seven months, my 43-year-old son will be married for the second time. Because of his fiancee’s problem drinking, I am absolutely against the marriage.

I hate the idea of going to the wedding. Should I go anyway, and have the most miserable day of my life? I doubt that I would be able to hide my sadness.

Or should I decline, tell my son I wouldn’t be a good guest to have on his happy day and wish them “all the best”?


DEAR HESITATING: I will assume that your son is aware of your concerns about his fiancee’s drinking. Do not boycott this wedding. If you do, you will create a wedge between you and your daughter-in-law that could last for decades.